What Makes You You? 1: Exploring Personality


Thinking about ‘What Makes You You’ is probably not something you spend time on very often, if at all?

Perhaps you are comfortable in your own skin and don’t want to rock the boat? Or maybe you wish you were more like somebody else and brush off what others value in you? Enter right – understanding, valuing and celebrating your psychological type!

The phrase ‘understanding, valuing and celebrating your psychological type’ probably comes pretty high on a list of blog turn offs! But – trust me, if you stick with it, if you have not already heard about psychological types and your psychological type in particular, you will find it worthwhile. Of course, your unconscious has known what makes you function at your very best all your life and has tried hard to tell you. But, we become very adept at turning off that inner voice, or letting others turn it off for us, for a whole range of reasons.

Getting back into contact with . . .

    • what really energises you in life
    • how you can best process and make sense of everything around you
    • how you can make good use of this information to make really good and appropriate decisions
    • how you can lead your life feeling that you are in control rather than that life is controlling you

This what this blog, and my next few blogs, are going to explore.

To get back to understanding, valuing and celebrating your psychological type!

You have always known you are unique

. . . and you are right. We now know, from the huge leaps that are being made in brain research, that how you ‘see’, experience, understand and respond to the world around you is very individual. Exactly how this all comes together is a mystery that is gradually unfolding in front of us. And, there are some psychological theories around that have already had a really good try upon which we can build on.

What we do ‘know’ is that what you are today is influenced both by what you have inherited through your genes from your parents – nature – and what you have experienced in your life to date – nurture. The percentage of each, is one of those interesting questions I suspect is discussed over many a dinner table without us even realizing it. Perhaps as a result of an item on the news or in a newspaper or magazine that we react very differently to, or from having friends or relations who are amazingly different even though they are part of the same family.

We are also

. . . of course, influenced by what is happening right now. I know that when I met with a group of people in an organisation the day after they had all been told, completely out of the blue, that they were going to lose their job, their view of life was very different to what it had been the day before. I am sure you can remember a time when something significant happened to you – perhaps an unexpected illness in the family, divorce or a life change such as a new job or retirement – which made something that was really important last week seem no longer significant.

We often describe

. . . the distinctive characteristics that make us unique as our personality. Exactly what comes together to make up our personality has been the focus of much discussion, a great deal of research and led to a considerable number of theories that continue to influence our thinking as well as our behaviour. Much of this has become integrated into our culture. In day to day conversation, for example, do you ever talk about or hear other people say, that an individual has particular traits or a particular style or preferred way of going about things? They might be relating this to something specific like leadership or organising their holiday or just reflecting more generally on how they go about their life?

Often, traits and preferences (types) are confused although they are distinct
and have a very different influence on your life

This is why, over the next few blogs my focus is going to be on the difference between traits and types and how your psychological preferences are likely to influence how you see, make sense of and experience the world. In other words – what makes you and everybody else you interact with unique.


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